Treason

How to find out if a wife is cheating?

How to find out if a wife is cheating?

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  1. Causes of Suspicion
  2. The main signs of treason
  3. How to check?
  4. Psychologist tips

Wrong wife is a headache for a husband. The whole family suffers from her betrayal. Divorce in this case is inevitable. Which man will tolerate infidelity? And if the representative of the stronger sex does not know for sure whether his girlfriend is true or not? How to determine that your spouse is cheating on you? There are some techniques for this.

Causes of Suspicion

The husband begins to think that his wife is cheating on him, and there are certain reasons for this. In the first case, the man is a pathological jealous man. He comes up with a betrayal of his wife on "level ground". It seems to him that lovers are waiting for his woman at every corner. Nothing can be done about this, since this trait is the psychology of the behavior of some representatives of the stronger sex, which is laid during the whole time that a person matures.

In the second case, the causes of suspicion also arise out of nowhere. This happens when the spouses have been married for a very long time and have a very respectable age. Aged spouse suspects his wife of constant infidelity. It would seem that this is an absurd story. But there is nothing comical here. Just a husband and wife have lived together all their lives, and now each of them is afraid of losing his “prosperous world”.

Over the years, people get used to each other and become one. Therefore, they fear that one of them may leave. And together with him the peace, which is so necessary in old age, will also go away. The representatives of the stronger sex are more impulsive, and for this reason they begin to fuss and invent themselves the imaginary betrayal of his wife. From here and various obsessive states that are successfully combined with speculation and fantasy.

In the third case, the distrust of the husband has a very real basis and can be understood. This happens when the wife begins to behave is not quite adequate. The behavior changes dramatically, and her family will not recognize her. It is possible that the woman met a new love, and she is concerned about completely different problems than the problems of the family.

In this case, the spouse must know the truth about what is happening with his wife to avoid the breakup of the marriage, since divorce is not always the perfect way out of this situation. In a family where children are brought up, parents must be careful in choosing one solution or another.

Therefore, you first need to identify the cause of the problem, and then solve it together. It is better to do this quickly and in a timely manner than to clean up the accumulated difficulties in the relationship. In fact, there are many different prerequisites that provoke a family member to distrust. Consider them in more detail.

  • In the case when a man himself often changes his woman, he becomes suspicious. It seems to him that everyone around him behaves the same way as he: at every opportunity, they change their soulmate. Here you must first understand yourself, and only then sin on others.
  • Another situation that may well cause suspicion of the wife’s infidelity. Spouse carefully monitors their appearance and is the benchmark of female beauty. How not to be jealous? In this situation, it is simply impossible.
  • Not far from the aforementioned reason, such a situation also happened when the husband has huge complexes. He always feels his inferiority before his wife, and therefore his condition becomes intrusive. Both he and his wife suffer from this.
  • It also happens that the woman herself is to blame for the fact that her husband constantly suspects her of treason.Earlier there were cases when a spouse found his darling for flirting with other representatives of the stronger sex. Now it seems to him that his wife, as before, continues to behave relaxedly with all men, and this makes his guesses stronger.
  • Unmarried girlfriends of the wife can also provoke distrust on the part of the spouse. If a close friend often changes partners, then the husband begins to unwittingly think that his woman is able to behave in the same way. Marriage bonds cannot stop those who are capable of betrayal.
  • Emancipated married women are almost always in the zone of various conjectures from the second half. The fact is that they often have to contact with different people, among them there are business partners. Frequent joint pastime colleagues may seem a suspicious fact. From this disagreement will go.
  • Frequent separation when the husband is on regular business trips may raise some doubts. Is it not enough what and with whom the wife is engaged in the absence of her spouse on the marriage bed? Until he is convinced that the second half is true to him, the jealous man will unknowingly speculate that his wife is deceiving him.
  • The big difference in age is fertile ground for the development of prejudice. An adult man, marrying a young lady, will always feel some inferiority. It lies in the discrepancy of physiological data. Fading organism and young organism significantly differ from each other.

An adult partner will feel that the intimate sphere suffers through his fault. There is nothing surprising. This is a natural process, and therefore, when choosing a partner, you need to remember the years that have passed.

After the foregoing, it is necessary to add that the reasons can be many, and men should not fall into panic. The behavior of both its members depends on the healthy climate of family relationships. You should always try to adjust your thoughts and conjectures with a positive. It is worth letting go of the situation and stop thinking about the fact that you may undergo treason. And if you continue to persist and want to know the truth about your soulmate, then read on the following information.

The main signs of treason

It is necessary to make a reservation that women usually do not go for treason, if they do not have good reasons for this. And this fact must be taken in the first place. Nymphomaniac women and women of easy virtue are not counted here. In this case we will talk about decent married ladies.

If a decent wife went to the deception, it means that she had her reasons for it. Before you make accusations, analyze your behavior and relationships in your family. Maybe the root of evil lies in yourself?

In any case, the situation with the wife’s infidelity does not need to be allowed “to chance” and wait until “thunder breaks out”. But to begin to act, you must first identify the fact of adultery, and then eradicate its causes and consequences. So, did you feel something was wrong and suspected treachery? How to recognize the behavior of his wife that she changes you? For this it is worth reading the following information.

  • If you see that the spouse began to prettier carefully before each exit "in people", you should be alert. Accurately saying on this basis that your wife is unfaithful will not work, because women are unpredictable people. Maybe, on the contrary, she is jealous of you and decided that with a change in appearance she will become more desirable. Therefore, there is no need to panic, but you just need to be vigilant.
  • More significant signs - this is when the wife sharply limited the diverse communication with you. She no longer tells you about what is happening at her work, how she feels in a team. That invisible connection that unites loved ones has disappeared between you, and you feel it well.
  • Also determine the infidelity of the spouse can be by sight.When you start asking leading questions, she will not look you straight in the eye, but will hide them like a guilty child.
  • Take a closer look at how your wife behaves when she is delayed after work. Obvious signs will be there. A woman will fuss, chew and try to get away from the inquiries.
  • Indifference to everything happening in your family is another sign of betrayal. The woman has long made her choice, and everything that was connected with you is no longer interested in her.
  • Frequent mood swings suggest that your darling is tormented by conscience, and maybe she thinks through the scheme of your speedy separation. Serious behavior and perplexed appearance of your wife urge you to think about the problem.
  • Has your woman become interested in beautiful underwear? So she has someone to show it. Be sure to pay attention to this.
  • His wife's eyes sparkle, and she looks happy on an “even” place. Of course, this is not talking about anything yet, but it causes suspicious suspicions.

Consider more obvious behavioral signs when you need to sound the alarm. As soon as the wrong second half begins to meet with her lover, then she unwittingly compares the current husband and the new elect. Of course, while there is a candy-bouquet period, the lover will be in a priority position. In the new favorite woman will admire all the details of his appearance: from cologne to figure and clothing.

At the same time, everything that is connected with her long-tired husband, that is, with you, begins to annoy her. The spouse will make comments to you about and for no reason. Identify all the flaws. What does this mean? And this means that you annoy her. True, she is still trying to hide it carefully, hiding behind the fact that it just brings a perfect lifestyle and teaches you to order.

Now each of the members of modern society has their own personal phone. Gadgets have firmly entered our lives, and now they are a reflection of personal space. Everything that happens around us is involuntarily reflected in the phone.

And if a woman began to hide what is in the apparatus and, moreover, to hide it, then secret information is in his memory. Wrong girlfriend hides secrets there from you. This is also an undeniable sign of treason.

It happens and vice versa: the wife treats all family members more attentively, buys gifts to her husband. Flirty with or without reason. It becomes stressed attentive and caring. In addition, the spouse begins to get involved in culinary delights: to cook deliciously and decorate all the dishes, as if she was going to serve them at the banquet. And most importantly: she had never done this before. This suggests that the wife is trying to make amends in front of you.

Also, the woman becomes demanding of herself and all households. This happens on the background of the fact that the representative of the weaker sex feels very necessary and loved by someone. And close people - husband and children - are slightly annoyed by the fact that, as she thinks, she is not appreciated.

For the same reason, the representative of the weaker sex becomes self-confident. He expresses bold thoughts and is not afraid to humiliate and offend everyone. Demonstrates its superiority, as if in adolescence.

And if you have never noticed such behavioral inclinations behind your life partner, then you should pay attention to such facts.

Physiological signs can also tell a lot about the fact that your wife has a loved one. The fact is that a woman at the moment of strong desire changes her hormonal level a little, therefore her characteristic features are transformed and become provocative. The once modest lady in her eyes turns into a vulgar person. It attracts attention with loud phrases and special movements.

It does not matter that at the moment there is no one who inspires her so much.Just a representative of the weaker sex all the time feels connected with him, and it seems to her that he invisibly watches his lady-heart. Therefore, she creates a "theatrical performance."

It is difficult to identify a betrayal of physiology, but some characteristics will tell in which direction to move. For example, it is possible to determine whether she has recently had a connection with another man by the reddish patches that go along the spouse’s body.

Simply put, irritation from the bristles appears, which will be noticeable upon careful examination. Ask questions about this and you will hear a mass of female lies that are not difficult to recognize.

And another clear sign is your sex life. If you began to notice a strong cooling in this regard, then you should think deeply about the question of the loyalty of your spouse. On the side she has a stormy and vibrant life, and for her family existence she has neither strength nor time left. It is possible that she will soon completely abandon intimacy with you and will blame only you for this.

And yet, it is necessary to add: if a woman is intelligent and inventive, then she will never give obvious signs that speak of her treason. If you do not notice anything, it means that you do not need to notice anything and specifically look for suspicious signs in behavior. You are happy - and this is important, but if the wife decides to leave you, she will do it anyway.

How to check?

One of the men decides that his wife’s infidelity is not a reason for divorce. This is his right, and it is not to be condemned. In this case, it is necessary to make the meeting with his wife's lover stopped once and for all. For this purpose, such techniques as talking to oneself, revealing diverse family problems and so on are suitable. Only in no case use force. Otherwise, you will not achieve what you wanted, but only harm yourself. Violence will lead to the inevitable breakup of the family.

Some will want to get away from the wrong wife and demand a divorce - this is a wise decision. due to the fact that marriage is first necessary to trust each other. And if one of the partners showed his dishonesty, then such a relationship should be terminated.

But in order to make certain decisions, you need to know for sure: there was treason or not. So, if you have determined the signs of treason, then now you need to go to the next stage: to catch the wrong wife. For this you need some tips.

  • In order to be sure that your wife has changed you, try to observe her behavior for some time. It will take a bit - just a week, during which you must be extremely careful not to lose sight of even the smallest details. This should be done in order to once again verify the correctness of your suspicions.
  • Take quietly the phone of the spouse. There will definitely be information that can confirm the act of infidelity. The slightest clue will give rise to further verification.
  • If the wife “closed” her page in social networks with a password, this again indicates that she has something to hide. Try using modern technology to crack your account.

There may be correspondence that will prove that the spouse has committed a betrayal. However, it may be the other way around, you make sure that your suspicions were in vain. Therefore, do not spare money and hire a high-class specialist.

    • Make sure your wife cheats, you can with the help of a calm conversation in private. Ask direct questions about your wife’s loyalty. Like no one else, you know the most subtle features of her character and therefore immediately determine if your spouse is lying to you or not.
    • Recognize the perfidy of his wife, you can use simple surveillance. You can do it yourself, or you can hire a specialist. He will provide you with evidence in the form of photographs and give an accurate report in detail.
    • Do you have suspicions that your wife is cheating on you at home in your bed while you are on a business trip? Then install a hidden camera in some hidden corner. As soon as you see records from electronic media, everything will immediately become clear to you. In addition, such evidence may be needed if you need to provide evidence of treason in court.
    • Wife - a very busy man and used to communicate with business partners? Do you suspect one of them that he is your wife's lover? Then, with the help of a specialist, reveal the business correspondence of the woman. There you will find what you were looking for. If the fears were in vain, you will not lose anything, but will only find peace of mind.
    • A DNA test will also help to know the truth about your wife. True, this is a very expensive event, but if you are eager to prove the guilt of your spouse, then act. To do this, you need to contact the laboratory, where experienced staff will tell you how and what to do in order to collect the biomaterial.
    • Neighbors and acquaintances can also tell you about what your wife saw in the company of an unknown man. Only here it is necessary to take into account the fact that people do not particularly go to contact when it comes to family secrets. Proceed in this case carefully. Do not lay out the interlocutor immediately the subject of your discussion, and act wisely. It will be enough to start a conversation with a neutral topic, and then quietly go to your questions. Just ask them in a relaxed manner and without pressure. It is possible that your friend will not tell you anything directly, but he will certainly hint at the information that he has been keeping for a long time "with him."

    If you feel this, then you should not continue to "push" new information. You will not achieve anything, but the man will shut himself completely. And since you have already “attacked the trail,” try to find someone who will be more open and tell you the details.

    • Offer your wife a joint rest. If she has a regular partner, then your call will not interest her. The subsequent irritation and discontent will say that your spouse is clearly not keen on your joint pastime. And separation from her lover is an unacceptable test for her.
    • And one more important moment. If you have small children in your family, then you can reveal the betrayal of your wife with the help of “baby talk”. The woman is confident that the child does not understand anything in the relationship of adults. Therefore, she can allow options for meetings where your joint child will be present. For example, in such situations, when a new partner brings your unfaithful wife to the house after she took her child from the kindergarten. During the trip in the cabin of the car is a young child. He is interested in knowing everything, and he is observing from the outside what is happening.

    A trip with a stranger is stored in the memory and can at any moment break out in the form of such a phrase: “And today we traveled with mom in a car with someone else’s uncle”. After these words, try in a game form to talk to your son or daughter. Perhaps in their words you will find information that can shed light on some of your questions.

    Psychologist tips

    When the fact of adultery is proven, the man falls into a stupor or is severely depressed. This happens because the psychology of men differs significantly from the psychology of women.

    • The husband perceives his wife’s unfaithfulness as his personal and powerful insult. All this happens to him due to the fact that the representatives of the stronger sex have a pronounced hunter instinct. Having lost its “prey”, the jealous man becomes enraged because a stronger opponent was able to select the most expensive.
    • He feels the pain of loss. That which was dear and that which he loved was crushed and defiled. From such experiences a deceived husband feels an inferiority complex. And for men it is a very strong test of strength.
    • The representative of the stronger sex can not always make a concrete decision due to the fact that in his soul two strong feelings begin to fight among themselves: hatred and love for the woman who betrayed.

    Of course, in such cases, turning to a psychologist is the most correct way out of the situation. But what to do when there is neither the desire nor the power to seek help from a stranger? The answer is obvious: read the following tips.

    In order to determine and specify your further actions, you must first answer the question: are you ready to divorce your soulmate after her betrayal?

    If you want to get a divorce, do it immediately. Begin to pull time - you will suffer even more. This problem will drag you into the abyss of your moods, and from there it will be difficult to get out.

    If you decide to stay in the family and forgive your wife, it means that you need to complete a self-rehabilitation course according to the following scheme.

    • Stop thinking about what your wife changed you. Cross out this information from consciousness. You can not do anything in half. Decided to continue the relationship - then do it.
    • You are a man and if you have made a decision about forgiveness, then forgive. This you must do sincerely and not leave a grudge even in the most secret corner of your consciousness.
    • You should not think about what your friends and mutual acquaintances will say. Believe me, they, by and large, do not care about your pain. Some of them, discussing the situation with adultery, just have fun. They like that your family has such difficulties. Some people are genuinely happy when they find out about other people's failures. So try not to pay attention to badly concealed judgmental glances and taunts. Avoid negativity and assault. In life there is nothing worse than death, and gossip will end sooner or later. Just cross out such "well-wishers" from your life and you will see that the problem will not disturb you anymore.
    • Do not involve children in this conflict situation. You and your wife make peace, and the new generation can be traumatized for the rest of their lives and become angry with you.

    To improve family relations, it is not enough for you to simply forgive your wife. It is necessary to take into account the fact that your spouse feels guilty and suffers. Therefore, she is nervous and can make mistakes that lead to scandals. Always remember that you are a man and must act more consciously. Defuse the situation in the family during the recovery period, you can use these tips.

    • Surging memories of cheating wife significantly spoil the mood. To improve the condition, go fishing. There you will get distracted and collect thoughts. Camping will help take all the power of will into a fist, and you will feel a surge of strength.
    • Play sports. It will distract you from negative thoughts and emotions, as well as raise self-esteem.
    • If you hear accusations of friends and former classmates behind you that you are a weakling, then prove the opposite. Always and everywhere go with your wife, taking her hand carefully. Gossip subside, and envious choke with anger.
    • Arrange holiday gatherings with close relatives. They will always support you morally and will not condemn.
    • Nature trips significantly heighten the family atmosphere. Get together on a hike together. Let all relatives participate in the collection of bags, equipment and provisions. Common activities unite people.
    • Make repairs in the apartment. This work will take you a lot of time and completely distract from the negative. Therefore, you will not be up to sad thoughts.
    • Invite your wife to do some hoarding. Having collected the necessary sum, you will spend it for purchase of a necessary thing. In the meantime, you will save money, you will be busy with a common cause, and this means that your relationship will begin to recover.

    Any sane person should be well aware that no one will solve his problems for him. Even a psychologist can give you only a hint on how to proceed.And in the future you should follow the path that your “me” will tell you.

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