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Treason of the wife: causes and ways to overcome the situation

Treason of the wife: causes and ways to overcome the situation

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  1. Reasons for treason
  2. How to behave?
  3. What not to do?
  4. Is it possible to save a family?
  5. Psychologist tips

Women cheat on their husbands a little less than representatives of the stronger sex. But the consequences of the betrayal of his wife is always very painful. Men, by their nature, treat this phenomenon as if the end of the world had come. And then the spiritual torment begins: get a divorce or stay.

Reasons for treason

So, the wife cheated on her husband. Why this is happening - it is difficult to answer this question immediately, without understanding each situation separately. At the very beginning it is necessary to note the fact that a woman almost always goes to adultery for a reason. The representatives of the weaker sex never cheat on their husbands, if those worthy partners who need not only love but also respect. If a respectable mother and wife took such a step, it means that she had very good reasons for that.

  • The wife held a grudge against her husband for any serious reason. Maybe he once raised his hand to her for a long time, or publicly humiliated her. After that, time passed, and the pain also passed, the resentment subsided, but did not disappear, but only dulled. And then on her way there is another person who is able to kindle a fire in the heart. First, a light flirt begins, and then a feeling of revenge will emerge. Emotions and mood elevation in such a case are quickly intertwined, and the result of all this is treason.
  • Treason can occur against the background of a meeting with a former lover. They had not seen each other for a long time, but somewhere deep down they always remembered what was between them. A bright flash of emotions, a quarrel with a husband or a good mood will play a role and will push both to change.
  • Love meetings with a colleague are not uncommon. Work for most people is a second family. Against the background of gray everyday life, easy flirting seems like innocent entertainment. In a team, everyone knows each other well, celebrates holidays together. In common meals with music and alcohol, all staff members converge. The edge is erased, and permissiveness appears. The wife may succumb to momentary temptation and make a mistake.
  • Men often complain that their wife betrayed themwithout thinking that their incorrect behavior could be the reason for treason. Husbands often forget to give compliments, give flowers to their wives, look at their dear friend with a “long-awaited look”. In the daily bustle, they often insult and humiliate their soul mate. So then wonder if the wife at one point looks to the side. She will look and, quite possibly, will find support for herself there. Undoubtedly, a new friend will appreciate the merits. As a result, the family will fall apart.
  • Women with strong character are looking for a partner who can tame their tempers. This condition is fulfilled only by a courageous and patient member of the stronger sex. If the husband does not meet the requirements, the wife will begin to look for a decent couple on the side. And such a person will surely find a friend for herself, since she has a purposeful character. In this case, a man needs to work on himself, to cultivate, otherwise there will be treason, and not even one.
  • The female psyche is very vulnerable. As a result of marital discord, the wife may say hurtful words. To reproach, and in most cases is fair, that her betrothed lies on the sofa and does not help her with the housework. The husband should not respond to them with aggression. Just fulfill the request of his wife.If the misunderstanding continues, it is possible that a woman from despair will look at those men who are more economic and have good earnings.
  • It is very difficult to love a person who is addicted to alcohol. A drunk husband is the misfortune of a woman. With this you will not get into people, it will turn any cheerful feast into a negative. It is therefore not surprising if his wife always looks to the side. It can be understood: the woman is tired of being a laughing stock in the eyes of others. About children and can not speak. You should not be surprised if at one point your wife replaces her husband, an alcoholic, with a non-drinker.
  • A tyrant husband is another problem for a woman. A man on every occasion hassles his life partner, since he sincerely believes that his wife is to blame for all the troubles. Thus, he covers his failure: he cannot make a career or does not earn enough money. The reasons may be different. Of course, a woman will get tired of such an attitude toward herself, and she will try to find a reliable and wealthy person.

Of course, treason has no excuse. Many of the representatives of the stronger sex sincerely believe that this is a very nasty act. And all the excuses in the form of the fact that the husband himself is to blame for the fact that he was changed, do not sound very convincing. Yes, it is, but only for those who, indeed, became the victim of an unfaithful woman.

But life is very multifaceted. One cannot condemn one event or another. All our actions have consequences. And if something happened, it means that it was not an accident. You need to remember this before condemning and making decisions that can harm you. It is necessary to analyze every moment and try to find an explanation.

If the wife has changed unconsciously once, it does not mean that she will change you all the time. It is enough for some to sin once, then to repent their whole life. It will be very difficult for a woman to change everything in her life in an instant due to her attachment to family and children. And she understands this well.

How to behave?

It is very difficult to survive the betrayal of a wife, as difficult as stepping on her throat. Resentment strangles and torments. These feelings do not give a normal life and breathe. The spirit of the hunter, which is inherent in men, only enhances the experience.

No one will condemn you if, after the betrayal of a friend, you collect things and leave her on all four sides. It will be your choice. In this case, it remains only to add that you did not have much love and affection for the woman who changed. You have nothing bound, and the gap will not be a special problem that can cause depression for a long time.

What to do if you do not want to part with the woman who became the closest person on earth? What to do if spouses have been married for more than a decade and “have eaten more than one pound of salt?” If such a couple has a strong joint household, have children and even grandchildren, well-adjusted life and common habits? What if all this does not want to lose because of resentment and betrayal?

Addressing the problem will help appeal to a private psychologist. However, not all men are ready to take such a step and tell a stranger about their specific situation. In this case, some recommendations may help.

  • If for you parting with your wife is like death, do not let her go and forgive. But first, talk to her about why she took such an unseemly step. Perhaps you will hear such arguments that you yourself want, if you don’t change yourself, then change yourself drastically, and become a completely different person.
  • You are tormented by thoughts about the upcoming break, but in order not to fall into the final depression, return to yourself peace of mind. Only you can help yourself with this. Sit down and sit in silence. Think about what follows the decision to divorce. Perhaps you will regret it all your life. Draw conclusions and try to forgive your woman.
  • Remember that you are a man and are responsible not only for yourself, but also for your wife and children.No need to shift the blame only on a woman. Think about your mistakes and mistakes. So you can analyze the situation and find out why there was a betrayal. Do not deny your guilt. As a result of reflection, you yourself will find the answer to the question: “Is it worth it to get a divorce?”
  • Do not make a hasty decision about a divorce. First imagine the consequences of this painful step. Having lost a habitual way of life, you can get instead of a hectic search for a new companion who may not be able to give you the family happiness your wife gave you.
  • Be able to forgive. Especially if you consider yourself a real man and love your wife. Let your opponent envy you, and you enjoy the fact that they have saved their family.

What not to do?

When you are hurt, the first action you want to do is revenge. Revenge of a loved one is a bad remedy to calm your pain. Therefore, it is worth thinking a hundred times before making such a not very prudent decision.

Family relationships are the most intricate tangle that only an experienced specialist can unwind. But if you are a self-sufficient man, you can help yourself. For this you can try to practice some expert advice.

  • The insult from treason wife pulsates. In a head different thoughts climb. So you want to punish the opponent. No matter how much you want it, hold on with all your might, don't spoil your nerves. Think about the consequences. They can be very deplorable. Due to rash actions, you may lose your reputation or get a real life.
  • No need to recoup your wife. She already suffers from remorse and fear of losing a family. If you care, try not to insult your spouse with the last words. If you are very offended, and do not want to see her, just do not talk for a while with her.
  • Do not stoop to your wifeif she is going to walk away from you to her lover. This you will not achieve anything. If she changed you, it means that you did something wrong all the time. Maybe they were too rude to her and the children, maybe they didn’t pay attention to the problems of the family. Give your other half to think in which direction to move, and when she understands this, then you can return her to the family.
  • Get away from the worst mistakeresorted to by some "hot" men. This threat is very much harm to yourself and the whole family. After such “arguments,” the wife will not only not return to you, but will also be frightened for herself and for the children. Then you lose it forever.
  • Argument to take away children and deprive a spouse of parental rights not only will not helpbut it will make your attempt worthless. The most precious thing for a woman is her children. The threat of seizure is not anger, but anger. This will be equivalent to trying to take her offspring from a lioness. Will tear and bite. It will not be possible to achieve something, and you will never return your wife and children. Moreover, the spouse will do everything to protect you from communicating with your kids.
  • Go and spread rumors about the wicked wife, too, is not worth it. By these actions you will not only defame your soul mate, but also yourself and the children. Excess gossip and ridicule behind no one needs. And if you soon reconcile, it will be difficult to look into the eyes of others.
  • It is not necessary to connect your wife’s friends to the solution of your problem. Do not ask one of them for help. Women are unpredictable and envious people. It’s not a fact that a long time friend will sincerely be delighted with your early reconciliation. Maybe, on the contrary, out of harm, she will tell you different tales, after which you immediately file for divorce. Do not trust strangers. You can be deceived, and you will take rash actions. Then after a while the truth will come out, and you will greatly regret the break.
  • And one more tip. Do not solve problems, hitting the spree and alcohol intoxication. This way you will definitely not achieve anything, but only harm yourself.Shake health, lose a good reputation. Only very weak people go this way. Do not be like them. Be stronger and smarter.
  • Do not drag your children into an adult conflict. Let them have a full childhood. What happened between you and your spouse should not concern them. They love both of you. Details of the scandalous situation that your children will know may cause psychological trauma.
  • No need to strive to change yourself to avenge the betrayal of his wife. The other woman will receive hope for your relationship with her, and the wife will be worried and jealous. As a result, you will punish both at once. From this it will not be easier for anyone. And if the children learn about it, then it will be even more difficult to restore the family. Such actions can finally spoil all attempts at reconciliation.

Is it possible to save a family?

    When it comes directly to your future destiny and the fate of your children, it is worth thinking a hundred times before you go to break with your loved one. Love and many years of affection for each other can not leave in one day. And if you have firmly decided to restore the relationship, then give a chance for their resuscitation. We must try to continue to live fully and with joy, forget about the grievances inflicted on each other and accept the incident. By torturing yourself, you will not change anything, but will only hurt yourself, your wife and children.

    If you have not left the family after treason, but are still thinking about what to do, then think about your children. Some families have two children, and some more. How will they accept your divorce? And if they have a transitional age? Adults should be the last to think about themselves if they have children. Their well-being is the main reason that should lead to your reconciliation with your wife.

    If the betrayal of the wife has passed without any special consequences, and everyone has already begun to forget about this, then you should not remind yourself every time that this fact happened in your life. Just wipe him out of your head.

    But if it turned out that the wife also became pregnant by her lover, then it is up to you to decide. Advisors will not help. We can only offer to leave the child and subsequently adopt. Yes, it is difficult and difficult, but if you really do not want to lose your soul mate, then accept her child too. After all, children are happiness, and may everyone around you admire your nobility. Let them think what they want, and you, despite all the circumstances, stayed together and are happy.

    While a person is young, it seems to him that everything can be changed overnight. But life passes quickly, and there come such moments when you want to see relatives and close people next to you. And if you forgive your wife for treason, then she will certainly repay you with gratitude. Who in his youth did a lot of stupid things, and then he was very worried about this, will no longer allow miscalculations.

    A person will make the right decision only when he hears arguments from the side and draws his own conclusions. Try to do only such actions, which later you will not regret.

    Psychologist tips

    Remember that a woman strongly repents after the betrayal of her husband. She fears that life after this event will no longer be the same and at the same time does not want to break off relations with her husband. She always thinks: “How could I commit such a shameful act?” Such a state can either let go or return with a new force. Even a year after the betrayal, the husband and wife cannot recover from the trauma suffered. How to be such a spouse, and how to get out of depression, will prompt some of the advice of a psychologist.

    A man who has forgiven, but not forgotten the offense, must remember that you can not do anything half. Therefore, if forgiven, it means forgot. And some interesting hobby will help you to forget. For example, fishing. No mood, but there is free time, distract from problems.

    • Go to the river, catch fish.The wife will be delighted with this outcome and praise, and the thought that you are a breadwinner will raise self-esteem. Make soup and sit down together at the table. It will bring you together and calm you down.
    • Passion for music also contributes to the normalization of mood. Invite your wife to listen to the classic together, and drink green tea with raspberry jam. The mood will improve from a healthy drink and joint pastime.
    • Contact your doctor to prescribe a sedative for the time when you are trying to maintain a relationship with your wife.
    • Do not discuss with your wife problematic issues that may provoke a conflict situation. Set aside these conversations for a more favorable time.
    • Start making repairs in the apartment. Involve your wife in this process. Joint workload will unite you, bad thoughts will leave, and so the mood will rise.
    • If you have your own house or cottage, start building a garage or playground. So you will be busy all the time in business, and thoughts about construction will block your obsessive thoughts about betrayal of a loved one.
    • Offer your wife and children a joint trip to nature. If it is cold, dress warmly and take a hot thermos with brewed herbs. Move there with the music, play with the children. You yourself will see how your relationship will move in a positive trend.
    • Get in the habit of arranging joint Sunday gatherings with your children. Invite to your very close friends (only those whom you trust). Share culinary recipes that you cook together.
    • Do not pay attention to taunts behind the back. Evil people are not happy someone else's happiness. It is possible that they envy you. And the opinions of such "buddies" should not interest you.
    • To gain peace of mind, immerse yourself in family life. Enjoy every day spent together. Celebrate even the most insignificant events. For example, the receipt of the daughter of the five math. So you yourself will understand that your ambitions are not worth it to spoil the mood of yourself and your loved ones.
    • Buy a puppy or kitten in the house. Children will be very happy, and common joy unites.

    The main thing is not to dwell on the problem. Leave her and hide in pleasant cares for your loved ones. Time will pass and you will forget everything. Time is the best adviser, doctor and judge.

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