28 years of marriage: what kind of wedding is it and how is it celebrated?
Wedding is the happiest day in the fate of many people. It is not surprising that happy spouses every year are looking forward to the next anniversary or anniversary, because this is a wonderful occasion to say again about their feelings, to share their joy with their loved ones, to update the memories of that most significant event. Thus, anniversary after anniversary, anniversary after anniversary, has been passing for several decades, and “on the horizon” we can already see the number 30, but we still need to live to see it, and today our spouses have been together for 28 years. There are already so many victories and accomplishments behind, and there are still many happy, bright days ahead.
What is the name of the anniversary?
It was so popular among the people that every wedding anniversary has its own symbolism. Almost before each new date spouses ask themselves the question, what is the name of the next anniversary? Indeed, thanks to the presence of this symbolism in life, it is possible to greatly facilitate the selection of a new and more original gift, and also to plan for this day some unusual celebration.
The term of 28 years of marriage is considered to be a nickel wedding. On some anniversary calendars, this name may also be worn at the 12th anniversary of living together. Nickel is a durable, shiny metal that can lose its natural beauty over time. Nickel anniversary as if obliges spouses to remember the reasons for which they are together, to renew their relationship, to restore order in family life. This name of the anniversary reminds that marriage, like nickel itself, requires constant care and polishing, and in order for feelings not to fade, they need to be nourished with new emotions.
28 years together is a rather impressive period, which means that life together has gone through many checks and tests, it is durable and reliable. Like nickel, such a marriage is resistant to corrosion, it was not affected by any external factors. It is also a heat-resistant metal, which means that they are not afraid of internal family storms and cataclysms either. Chemists say that nickel has magnetic qualities, so it can be safely said that couples that have gone such a long way are bound by strong mutual magnetism.
All these signs justify this name of the wedding, but the surest way to understand why nickel is exactly is to look at the periodic table. Every high school student will say with confidence that nickel in it occupies exactly the 28th position.
Is it accepted to celebrate this date?
Popular wisdom suggests that you should not celebrate this date. According to beliefs during this period, families tend to be in complex relationships, often accompanied by quarrels, recriminations and misunderstandings. Folk legends say that in such a hectic time, you need to limit your social circle and understand yourself, your own feelings, put your emotions in order, and establish relationships with your spouse. Modern psychology confirms the possibility of such a state, justifying it by the fact that it was during this period that a spontaneous middle age crisis often occurred. However, most experienced psychologists say that it is during such difficult periods that it is important to distract from hard thoughts and afford a holiday.
It is believed that 28 years from the date of the wedding is not an anniversary, not a round date, so many simply do not consider it necessary and important to give it some kind of excessive attention. Given all the traditions and opinions, it can be concluded that it is still necessary to celebrate a nickel wedding, but you should not do it too pompously. Arranging for the celebration of a nickel wedding, it is important to gather in your environment only the closest people, whose presence will remind the spouses what they have achieved in marriage, why it took place at all.
As a rule, these couples have already quite adult children who have achieved something in life and are a reason for pride - it is their presence that should remind you that thanks to the long years of living together and working in a family such wonderful people grew up.
How can I mark?
In celebration of this date, there must be something old and something new. The old should remind the couple of what was at the origin of their relationship, why are they so many years together. And the new should bring bright colors into everyday life, fill them with positive emotions, add novelty and sharpness to the emotional sphere of their life together.
“Old” things and memories are easiest to apply in the decor of the event, for example, you can create individual invitations with old photos from the wedding day - this will not only remind the invitee of what the couple were on their wedding day, but also show that this date is really meaningful for spouses.
The room where the celebration will take place, even if it is the living room of your own home, can be decorated with collages from old photos and important symbols of family happiness, for example, decorations that have survived from the wedding. The creation of a video series from old family photographs would be very appropriate, such a move would allow the newlyweds to make a new assessment of the way they had traveled. It is also a good idea to celebrate this anniversary in nature; you can choose and prepare a picnic meadow in advance.
To do this, you can twist the trees with garlands on the batteries, pull the clotheslines and attach the photos of the spouses surrounded by the family with clothespins. In such an environment, a photo zone decorated with large candles, an arch or a table of flowers will look very original - even if this is not the most original solution, but it will create new vivid memories in this family and add significantly to the family photo album.
By the way, photo shoots have recently become popular, exactly repeating previous photo shoots from significant dates. Repeating your own wedding photography on the 28th anniversary is a very original and even fun decision.
It would not be superfluous to invite a professional photographer who can most vividly display the state of a merry, carefree holiday. Celebrating the 28th anniversary of the wedding in a narrow circle of the closest people, you can allow yourself some kind of extravagance that will make the senses sparkle and glow with a new force.
So, you can take a walk in a balloon - it will inspire the spouses to new achievements. In honor of this date, you can make rafting on the river or hiking in the mountains. You can afford a hike on wild trails or interesting tourist routes. Any extreme that suits spouses for health reasons during this period is welcome. Now you can afford to have an exotic pet, because children have long been independent, and the parental instinct is still not wasted. The new “family member” who needs custody will help to unite the spouses and spend the accumulated care. Why not time the purchase of a pet on the anniversary day?
In the organization of the celebration a special place should be occupied by the symbol of this day - nickel. It is important that on the table with treats be something of sparkling polished nickel, for example, spoons, napkin rings or a vase for sweets. The accessories of the newlyweds may also contain nickel: they may be cufflinks or a tie clip for the spouse and a pendant or ring for the spouse. A ceremony of exchanging nickel rings, which can be accompanied by new marital vows, will be useful.
What to gift?
As a rule, during this period, the couple are accomplished people who have little or no need. It is very difficult for such people to find a really suitable and worthy gift. Given the possible crisis in family relationships, you can make a gift that will push the spouses to reconciliation. It should be a gift for two: a joint trip to the spa or a holiday trip. Tickets to your favorite concert or to the premiere of the new play will also be a good occasion not only to spend time together, but also to prepare for this event, dress up, look brilliant for each other.
Do not forget about the pleasant little things from nickel: here paired charms, tableware, figurines, watches or bracelets, photo frames and much more will be appropriate. The main thing in this case is to take into account the tastes of the spouses so that the gift does not become an unnecessary burden. If all of the above do not like the donor or the receiving party, you can make more original gifts. It is quite appropriate to look for a bottle of expensive, high-quality champagne with a custom-made label. On such a label can be as a simple greeting, a photo of the married couple, and a complex collage with monograms - all that is enough imagination.
In the pastry shop you can order a delicious cake with photo printing food colors. Such a sweet present will delight the sweet tooth family, decorate the festive table, will be a pleasant conclusion to the feast.
You can order cups or t-shirts with original inscriptions and photo printing in almost any photo salon. This is not new and not quite original, however, you can beat this gift, make inscriptions that have special symbolism in a particular family.
In addition to all the above, on this day it is appropriate to give fragile things, because they symbolize the need to take care of family life with care and appreciate it. So, gifts from crystal, porcelain or expensive glass will be appropriate. Orchids are also relevant on this day, because in some cultures this day is considered to be the wedding of orchids. Flowers can be given in pots or in bouquets - it all depends on the tastes and preferences of the giver and the host.
Not the worst gift will be money, because only spouses probably know what they would like on that day. The main thing in the gift is that it should be made or purchased from the bottom of the heart and with good thoughts, and material value should not be so important.
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