Types of conflicting personalities and their characteristics

In everyday life, one constantly encounters conflicting individuals. It is impossible to avoid this: such people are found everywhere and sometimes completely unpredictable. But still, using psychological knowledge, you can recognize them, divide them into types, and choose the appropriate line of your own behavior.

The interaction of people is not without conflicts and collisions. But not all "clashes" are objective and inevitable. Sometimes their actual cause, the psychological factor of people becomes the decisive factor. There are two fundamental approaches to describing them: one regards collisions as a strictly negative process, and the other sees in them opportunities for advancement.

Conflict in any case is called the probability that a person will enter into an argument, whatever the occasion. For the behavior of people in situations of particularly stressful kind, the entry into the conflict is completely normal. Any ordinary person, even the most balanced and calm, can be extremely hostile:

• to life failures;
• disappointment in other people;
• cheating;
• various forms of betrayal.

But there are still people of unmanageable type, they are incapable:

• adequately assess the situation;
• reduce the severity of their reaction while easing tension;
• perceive arguments and explanations.

It is necessary to pay attention not only to the personal moment, but also to the manifestation of different cultures in the conflict interaction. Cultural space predetermines a set of value and moral landmarks, basic meanings and goals of existence. In this case, the cultural space means not so much an ethnically colored worldview, as belonging to a particular group, allocated for a variety of reasons.

So, people of high general cultural level naturally tend to minimize the severity of collisions, to smooth out sharp corners. The tension of confrontation is limited, it is introduced into a clear framework, muffling contradictions.

At this moment, the struggle and, even innocent, from the point of view of some people, actions, words are treated by others as fundamental disrespect, intensify most of all. It is not just more or less emotionality that matters. The limits of permissible and forbidden, discussed and non-negotiable differ; different strength of reaction to certain events, facts.

And yet, with all the ethnic, professional and moral diversity of people, conflict science makes it possible to identify several distinct psycho-types of especially aggressive individuals. The so-called demonstrative participant in the conflict seeks to continuously be in the limelight. For him, struggle, controversy and contradiction are not an end in themselves, but only a means. Such people have a simple separation of those around them: those who admire them deserve attention, but if there is no admiration, then no attention should be paid.

The opposite psychotype of destructive destructive behavior is a rigid personality type. Such people are prone to straightforward and peremptory judgments. As often as possible, they choose not constructive methods and strategies of interaction, but conflicting ones, they are not inclined to listen to the opinions of others. Even if they seem to be able to win over to their side, they will still do what they think is necessary, although they will agree in words. Moreover, such individuals are not inclined to go first to reconciliation, even if they are clearly aware that they are wrong.

Another highly conflicting category of personalities is people of the so-called ultra-precise type. For the most part, they are prone to anxiety, they are afraid not to justify the confidence they provide. With this combination of behavioral characteristics, people diligently hide emotions. Only experienced psychologists or very sensitive interlocutors can catch them, and not always.

The super-precise personality shows attention to the smallest details, trying to avoid early and ill-conceived decisions. Perfectionism often leads to the problem, leading to nervous breakdowns and psychosomatic disorders. Workaholism is peculiar to super precise personalities. Much worse to communicate with unmanaged people, they:

• behave impulsively;
• in principle, uncontrollable;
• inconsistent;
• incapable of planning.

A conflict-free person rarely gets into an argument. Usually masterfully avoids him.

Even if the situation objectively draws them in there, such individuals try to play the role of “observer”, “peacemaker” or “adjacent to the winner”. It is justified to use them in difficult and tense negotiations. But to entrust affairs that require a clear upholding of the line, no matter what, they should not.

Familiarization with the psychology of the family allows us to identify a different classification of participants in the conflicts - according to Bremson. The initiators of disputes and squabbles usually become "aggression". They are divided into three subtypes:

• “Pavers” (categorically and assertively);
• "Marksmen" (ironically, trying to hit and provoke in the most emotionally tense for others);
• "Exploding" (easily excitable due to temperament, character, or prolonged mental trauma).

Conflict can provoke more so-called know-alls.

They are sure that no one knows better than them a certain sphere, or other people, or even everything in the world. A type close to them is maximalists. They believe that they are distinguished by impeccable personal qualities, irresistible beauty, insightful mind, professional talents - and sometimes all together. And the so-called secretive brawlers accumulate emotions and throw them out suddenly.

How to deal with conflicting and how to take control of the conflict in their hands, described in the video below.