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Who should greet first according to etiquette?

Who should greet first according to etiquette?

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Content
  1. Acquaintance
  2. Communication
  3. How to behave at the meeting?
  4. Handshake rates
  5. How to correctly say goodbye?

In the modern world, every person wants to stay free and confident in any situation. To overcome stiffness you need a lot, including knowledge of the basic rules of etiquette.

Acquaintance

Dating etiquette was formed in ancient times and was inherent in all the people. Many of the rituals exist to this day. For example, a characteristic, business note, or phone call is required prior to employment. And when meeting with a newcomer team is an official.

This tradition has come to us since the beginning of the Middle Ages, when a stranger needed a mediator or a letter of introduction to enter the house. Today it has become much easier to meet. Before you start communicating with strangers, you just need to introduce yourself. However, all subsequent communication will depend on the first impression - they meet in their manners.

So, let's see in detail how to behave correctly:

  • If there is a need to ask a question to a stranger, then you first need to introduce yourself, calling your first and last name, middle name - at will. This rule applies both in person and when talking on the phone or in electronic correspondence. Of course, you should not introduce yourself if you only need to know the way to the nearest metro and in other similar situations. But in other cases, etiquette is strictly observed.
  • During the meeting, men and women first appear to be a man. However, there are a few exceptions, in which the representatives of the weaker sex should name their names first:
  • Students in schools while meeting with the teacher;
  • With a significant difference in age;
  • Younger in military rank or position in a business setting.
  • If both interlocutors are in the same position, the oldest person greets the second.
  • If you are acquainted with a large company or a married couple, you need to introduce yourself first.
  • The secret of a good first impression depends on whether you smile or not. You need to look strictly in the eyes of the interlocutor, and not on the sides. If you are in a company that represents one person, then you need to wait until the turn comes to you, then shake hands.
  • If you are a mutual acquaintance, you should bring together the people you need to introduce, and give their names. Following etiquette, guests should not get to know each other themselves.
  • If you have to introduce a girl with a guy, then first call the name and middle name of a representative of the weaker sex.

The person who is represented to the interlocutor, following the rules, is obliged to give a hand to the second. In this case, the senior can lend a hand first. Women also give a hand to the representatives of the stronger sex first.

  • If the company already everyone knows each other, and you bring a stranger, you need to submit it to everyone by name and first name. The newcomer, after he was introduced, needs to make a slight nod of his head a greeting sign. If a novice is late for a feast for some reason, he must also be presented to everyone and offered free space. In this case, the latecomer will get acquainted himself with those who are closest to him at the table.
  • If you need to introduce a person to people who are currently busy, you need to wait a bit or wait to meet someone.
  • If a man is represented to someone, then he must definitely get up. However, a woman only gets up when she is presented to a lady who is older in age or a man who is highly respected in society or this company;
  • If you need to introduce someone to your relatives, then first of all you need to introduce relatives. A guest is first presented only when you introduce him to your parents. If both parties are equal in age, first introduce their relatives to friends and acquaintances. For example, his brother is his friend. If young people are of the same age, then during their acquaintance, we can confine ourselves to names.
  • Etiquette forbids during the presentation of a person to present him as "this is my friend." Such a phrase will offend the rest of the guests.
  • If you have someone presented, you can introduce yourself by name and surname, adding the phrase "Nice to meet you."
  • After that, having become acquainted, people should exchange at least a couple of minor pleasant or neutral phrases.

Communication

The initiator of the dialogue usually becomes a person who is older or higher on the career ladder. If you imagine a man to a woman, then the fair sex representative begins the conversation.

According to the norms of etiquette, to any person who is older than 12 years should be addressed to "you", on “you” you can communicate only with friends or very close people.

If you are in a big company of strangers, during an active conversation it is advisable not to give more preference to someone alone, it is best to have at least a couple of phrases with all people.

We all know that every person is to some extent an egoist. Consequently, many people during the dating evaluate the interlocutors or try to extract at least a small benefit from the situation. However, well-educated people are always successful in the team precisely because of the ability to suppress their own vested interests. Such people are always notable for obvious friendliness to everyone, constantly giving smiles to those around them.

Leaving behind a good impression is quite simple. The main thing is to show a sincere interest in everything that your interlocutor is telling about, even if you do not understand the essence at all and cannot give advice. Just listen, then your counterpart will definitely have a good opinion of you:

  • During a conversation, you can only look in the eyes of the interlocutor, people with wandering eyes around express their disrespect, create the impression of disinterest in communication.
  • During the dialogue, you only need to smile sincerely, otherwise you are unlikely to want to continue to communicate, a fake smile is determined immediately, nobody likes it.
  • During the conversation do not need to be distracted by extraneous thoughts. Reflections on other topics will be clearly visible on your face, which will spoil the first impression.
  • Every person is pleased when they call him by name, so try to do it as often as possible. Topics for communication need to choose only those that will be equally interesting to you and your interlocutor.
  • On the first day of communication with a person, it is advisable not to talk about personal life. Your problems are unlikely to be interesting to the interlocutor, so you should not talk about them.
  • In order not to make a negative impression, during the first meeting you should not show your perseverance when discussing common issues.
  • In order for your vis-a-vis to feel its importance, you can note its positive qualities, which, in your opinion, are excellent. However, flattering is prohibited.

How to behave at the meeting?

Almost all businessmen are very reluctant to go to business meetings, fearing to be in an awkward position. People get into such situations because they do not know the simple rules of business etiquette. However, business meetings with work partners have to be quite frequent, therefore everyone must master the necessary rules of conduct:

  • Being late is the most common mistake. At business meetings you need to come at a specified time. Punctuality is one of the best qualities of a person, demonstrating a serious attitude to the tasks set. Therefore, everything must always be done on time.
  • If you are the organizer of the meeting, and there are newcomers in it, then first of all you need to submit them to the company.
  • Before the meeting, you need to prepare very well, you need to know what you are going to talk about. If you present a presentation, then you need to collect a sufficient amount of information, make a list of questions.
  • At a business meeting, you need to make a clear plan and keep it close at hand. The plan is key to making a good impression and achieving goals.
  • If the meeting takes place at the table, the chair should be adjusted so as to be on the same level with its partners. People diligently arranging chairs or chairs for themselves are usually perceived by young children sitting at the same table with adults. At business meetings, it is also forbidden to cross the legs.
  • During negotiations, you can not speak too quietly, as many women do. You should be well heard even at the far end of the table. However, shouting is also not worth it, otherwise it may affect the outcome of the meeting.
  • Your personal success will depend on whether you decide to speak at the beginning of the negotiations or at the end. The later you take the word, the more difficult it will be to say something new. If everything is said, you will have nothing to add, then the meaning of your presence at the meeting is lost.
  • During the negotiations, you can not put the phone on the table, even if it is upside down, it can distract with a sudden call or SMS. Therefore, it is advisable to keep it in your pocket or purse, having previously set the “Silent” mode. If the call is very important to you, then you need to apologize and leave the room. However, typing SMS is not allowed.
  • There is no meeting. Interlocutors may not like the smell of food or the sound of chewing. However, business lunch or dinner are an exception. A cup of coffee or water in the conference room is allowed.

If you have eaten all the same, then you must take it away for yourself, the table should be in such a state as it was before your appearance, unless it is a restaurant or cafe.

It is forbidden to leave behind a mess.

Handshake rates

There are special rules according to which:

  • a person who is late for a conversation is obliged to greet all those present;
  • the subordinate is the first to give a hand to the boss;
  • a person who is lower in rank always welcome those who are higher on the steps of his career ladder;
  • during a meeting of married couples, first the ladies greet each other, after which the representatives of the stronger sex greet the ladies and then shake hands;
  • in many European countries, a man has the right to say hello first to a lady and reach out to her for a handshake. However, it is preferable that women be welcomed first;
  • an adult must himself give a hand to a child;
  • a hand that remains hanging in the air is considered an insult.

How to correctly say goodbye?

If communication is too long, you can offer your counterpart to get to know the rest. After presenting them to each other, you can ask for forgiveness and deviate.

Before leaving the unfamiliar team, you can not say goodbye to each individually. If you leave a very large company before everyone else, then you should say goodbye only to the owners. Public care can be a sign that it's time for everyone to disperse.

The farewell should not be too tight. A simple exchange of handshakes will be enough.

You need to finish communication by showing politeness and adding a few phrases, for example: “It was nice to meet you”, “All the best”, “Goodbye”.If you need to leave early, you should notify the interlocutor during a pause in the conversation, and say goodbye to the words: "I hope to see you again."

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