Jealousy

Women's jealousy: causes, signs and rules of struggle

Women's jealousy: causes, signs and rules of struggle

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  1. The psychology of a jealous woman
  2. The reasons
  3. Signs of
  4. How to cope?
  5. Effects

Love is a wonderful feeling, but when one of the partners begins to make increased demands on his chosen one, he is jealous about it and for no reason, such a union may be on the verge of a split. On how much a woman is jealous of her partner, their future life together depends.

The psychology of a jealous woman

It is believed that jealousy is a feeling that is a manifestation of love. But this is not true. The person who experiences this feeling is an owner and an egoist, and he is not sure of himself. A jealous woman is extremely suspicious and suspicious. She sees in all actions of her partner treason both with her nagging and hysterics prettyly spoiling life not only for herself and her partner, but also for those around her.

According to the statement, the feeling of jealousy arises not from the person who loves himself, but from the one who wants to be loved.

Psychologists say that jealousy in small “doses” is even useful. It allows both partners to be “in good shape”.

This feeling arises because of the fear of losing your beloved, although, often, a jealous person in a family can break the vow of loyalty.

Jealousy in women can be expressed in different ways. Some jealous men begin to follow their second half, read the messages, hire private detectives to work. They do this in silence, gradually “eating away” from the inside.

Another category of women, on the contrary, falls into hysterics, their actions become uncontrollable. After another scandal, they can talk to a man and find out the cause of the misunderstanding. But it will be so until the next outbreak of jealousy on their part.

The reasons

According to psychologists, the prerequisites for the emergence of jealousy appear in childhood. It depends on the family in which the girl was raised. In childhood, these qualities are still poorly expressed, but as they grow up, a woman begins to seek protection and support for her whole life in her partner. The influence of other women on him is perceived by her in hostility, because he must fully belong to her.

Causes of jealousy can be very different.

  • Injustice. By marrying or living with a partner in a civil marriage, a woman perceives herself and him as one. They are a couple and must belong inseparably. If the husband begins to look "left", it violates the created way of life, and is perceived by the woman as injustice.
  • Betrayal. A woman creates in her soul a special world, where both partners have common interests, life, and common secrets. If she begins to suspect that the union is collapsing, she feels betrayed. Many people are very sensitive to the "betrayal" on the part of their partner and inflate the problem where there is none. A glimpse of a passing girl, conversations with colleagues, drinking tea together at work will be perceived as a serious offense, as a betrayal.
  • Feeling inferior. A woman begins to compare herself with others, while finding a lot of complexes. If in her youth, she was deprived of the attention of guys, it only aggravates the situation. It seems to her that her husband can find a more beautiful, intelligent, slim, sexy partner. She closely watches her elect, being herself in nervous tension, worrying that he should not be carried away by other women.
  • One of the reasons for jealousy is the feeling of slighted pride. These ladies, on the contrary, are overly self-confident and the realization that the spouse draws attention to a rival, makes them indignant.They are accustomed to always be the center of attention, attracting the views of other men to themselves, therefore, they are especially attentive to their appearance. Understanding that her man begins to give signs of attention not to her, but to her rival, enrages her, she can start avenging her husband or rival.
  • Fear of losing the material welfare that creates a husband. Such women often sit at home with their children, with no additional means for existence. The husband is the only source of income for her. She is jealous of anyone who may need his financial assistance.
  • Fear of being alone. Many women are afraid to be left without a partner, especially since there are many examples around when beautiful young girls are left alone. Having found their chosen one, they begin to protect him, while they are unfoundedly jealous.

The reason for jealousy can be both the frequent absence of the partner’s home and his constant presence.

If the spouse is always together at home and at work, then any non-standard situation can be perceived as treason. In the case when a partner often has to leave a partner, she does not have the ability to control where and with whom he is, which also leads to distrust on her part.

Signs of

The main sign of female jealousy is the constant monitoring of the actions of a man. But there are other "symptoms" of this condition.

  • Constant vigilance. In such a union, the woman begins to control her partner. She knows where and with whom he spends time, with whom she communicates at work. This is reflected in the control of his phone calls, reading SMS. The wife begins to blame her husband in any situation, arranges scenes for about and without a reason, not allowing her husband to meet with friends - after all, there may be women.
  • "Work" of imagination. Staying home alone, the spouse begins to imagine that her husband at this time can change her. Such thoughts can be so real that they bring a woman to panic. A simple telephone conversation between a husband and a colleague can provoke an attack of jealousy from his wife. Her blood pressure rises, headaches begin.
  • Charge from her side. A jealous woman starts blaming her partner. He, in turn, has to prove that it is not. After some time, the situation is repeated again with the same final.
  • Rolling scenes. She does not cost anything to roll the stage at any time, in any company. She will not choose expressions, lower her voice or change her intonation. Such a lady is not shy in expressions anywhere, regardless of the situation.

A woman will control her partner if she lingers at work. She may even come to the office to make sure that the spouse’s words are true. The situation may be aggravated if her husband works in a team with young beautiful women. Manic jealousy knows no barriers. A woman will fight for her man, although often there are no prerequisites for this.

How to cope?

You should constantly work on yourself. An old unsightly dressing-gown or a ragged hairstyle has not inspired anyone yet. A reflection in the mirror should like a woman. If she is pleased with herself, her choice will be admired.

For those who are not completely satisfied with their reflection, hairdressers and stylists will come to the rescue. Hike to the fitness center also should not be postponed for long.

A woman begins to create non-existent pictures in her head, thereby destroying herself. In psychology, there is such a term as "imaginary third."

The “risk” group includes women suffering from chronic diseases and mental disorders, as well as people with a sensitive psyche.

  1. Elderly ladies suffering from sclerotic disorders. Knowing that they may not remember much, they are sure that they are being deceived and changed.
  2. Women with serious illnesses. They believe that they are no longer needed and are a burden for everyone, so they draw attention to themselves by any means.

Should not go on about jealousy.

This means that you need to learn to give your partner a love, and not to demand it from him. It is necessary at the first manifestation of jealousy to drive from yourself intrusive thoughts.

Effects

Excessive jealousy can cause serious harm to health. At the first attacks there is a tremendous load on the cardiovascular and nervous systems. Immunity decreases, malfunctions occur in the work of internal organs. A woman develops obesity, heart attacks, stroke, and often nervous breakdowns.

A woman should analyze the situation in order to understand how real her suspicions are. If the signs of jealousy are minor, and she herself can control them, you can try to treat them with humor, or philosophically.

If this is a paranoid jealousy that is uncontrollable, then you should seek the help of specialists.

To help his wife deal with the problem, the husband must be patient and restrained. In this case, she will see that there is no cause for concern. Confidence should arise between the couple, so it is important to communicate more often with each other, discuss problems together.

Jealousy is often caused by low self-esteem, so a spouse must constantly feel how important and desirable it is for him, as a woman. It is necessary to "treat" her soul.

In any relationship you need to find a middle ground, it is important that partners trust each other and do not give a reason for jealousy. To achieve harmony in relationships, it is worth finding a way out of difficult situations together. This is the only way to maintain trust and love for each other.

For more on women's jealousy and how to deal with it, see the video below.

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